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The Myth of Male Power

The Myth of Male Power
Warren Farrell

The Myth of Male Power: Why Men are the Disposable Sex is a 1993 book by Warren Farrell, in which the author argues that the widespread perception of men having inordinate social and economic power is false, and that men are systematically disadvantaged in many ways.

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“By giving women training to sue a company for a ‘hostile environment’ if someone tells a dirty joke, we are training women to run to the Government as Substitute Husband (or Father). This gets companies to fear women, but not to respect women. The best preparation we can give women to succeed in the workplace is the preparation to overcome barriers rather than to sue: successful people don’t sue, they succeed.”

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Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 351.

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“Minimizing the role of sexual attraction in rape denies our responsibility for reinforcing men's addiction to female sexual beauty and then depriving men of what we've helped addict them to.”

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Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 311.

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“There are many ways in which a woman experiences a greater sense of powerlessness than her male counterpart: the fears of pregnancy, aging, rape, date rape, and being physically overpowered; less socialization to take a career that pays enough to support a husband and children[…] Fortunately, almost all industrialized nations have acknowledged these female experiences. Unfortunately, they have acknowledged only the female experience.”

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Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part 1: The Myth of Male Power, p. 28.

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“The worst aspect of dating from the perspective of many men is how dating can feel to a man like robbery by social custom – the social custom of him taking money out of his pocket, giving it to her, and calling it a date. To a young man, the worst dates feel like being robbed and rejected. Boys risk death to avoid rejection”

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e.g., by joining the Army
Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 314.

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“In brief, we do more research on men in prison, men in the military, and men in general than we do on women for the same reason we do more research on rats than we do on humans.”

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Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 189.

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“We have restricted humans from giving ‘free’ food to bears and dolphins because we know that such feeding would make them dependent and lead to their extinction. But when it comes to our own species, we have difficulty seeing the connection between short-term kindness and long-term cruelty; we give women money to have more children, making them more dependent with each child and discouraging them from developing the tools to fend for themselves. The real discrimination against women, then, is ‘free feeding’.”

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Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 346.

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“All societies that have survived have survived based on their ability to prepare their sons to be disposable, in war and at work--and therefore as dads.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Part I.
The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part 1: The Myth of Male Power

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“Blacks are six times more likely than whites to be victims of homicides.”

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Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 214.

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“If a female employee is offended, a boss would like her to tell him, not sue him.”

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Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 294.

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“Imagine how we would feel if I began this section saying, Today, violence against women is rightly applauded. We would know I favored the death of women; when we applaud for violence against men, we favor the death of men. We do it because we have learned that the more effectively we prepare men to sacrifice themselves, the more we are protected.”

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Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part 1: The Myth of Male Power, p. 76.

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“Unemployment to a man is the psychological equivalent of rape to a woman.”

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Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 172.

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“Men are likely to be not only the warriors of war but also the warriors of peace. Almost all those who risk their lives, are put in jail, or are killed for peace are men. While some of the peace warriors—Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King, Gandhi, Dag Hammarskjold—are remembered, most are forgotten. Remember Norm Morrison? After years of protesting the Vietnam war, Norm doused himself with gasoline and set himself on fire on the steps of the Pentagon[…] But Norm Morrison is forgotten.”

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Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 153.

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“In brief, our genetic heritage is at odds with our genetic future. For the first time in human history, the qualities it takes to survive as a species are compatible with the qualities it takes to love.”

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Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part 1: The Myth of Male Power, p. 65.

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“The Ms. survey can call it a rape; a relationship counselor will call it a relationship.”

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Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 338.

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“Sexual harassment legislation in its present form makes all men unequal to all women.”

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Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 288.

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“Women's scars and rituals involved beauty (piercing ears and noses, binding feet, and wearing corsets); men's involved protecting women. In cultures in which physical strength is still the best way to protect women, as among the Dodos in Uganda, each time a man kills a man, he is awarded a ritual scar; the more scars, the more he is considered eligible.”

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Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part 1: The Myth of Male Power, p. 72.

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“What makes a teenage boy’s anxiety so overwhelming is that a teenage boy’s socialization is the demand to perform without the resources to perform. As a result, not only are his risks many, but his failures many. And so apparent… Second, the biggest winners—the football players—are receiving love via self-abuse. For some boys, receiving love via self-abuse creates anxiety. But losing love creates even more anxiety.”

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Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 167.

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“Contract killings never get recorded as a woman killing a man.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 281.

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“Women attempt suicide more often because they want to become the priority of those they love rather than always prioritizing them.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 171.

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“As females enter the workplace, will our tendency to protect women create rules that will also protect men? Yes and no. Yes, when, for example, the new concern for doctors working fewer than eighty hours per week also affects men. No, when working-class jobs get divided into the males taking the hazardous jobs… and women taking safer jobs. And in professional careers, if males take irregular hours and specialties such as surgery, while females take regular hours and specialties like psychiatry, then we will only reinforce the female-protected class and the male-disposable class.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 213.