
Variant: I think the hardest thing in life is to forgive. Hate is self destructive. If you hate somebody, you're not hurting the person you hate, you're hurting yourself. It's healing, actually, it's real healing...
Forgiveness.
Source: "Penn Badgley Isn't Who You Fans Think He Is" in InStyle https://www.instyle.com/celebrity/penn-badgley-interview-you-2021 (14 October 2021)
Variant: I think the hardest thing in life is to forgive. Hate is self destructive. If you hate somebody, you're not hurting the person you hate, you're hurting yourself. It's healing, actually, it's real healing...
Forgiveness.
“I was thinking to myself out there — well, you wouldn't think you're anybody else, would you?”
Live from the West End (1995)
Sestina of the Tramp-Royal, Stanza 6.
The Seven Seas (1896)
“You're going to get hurt yourself, and badly, if you take everything so hard.”
Source: The Joys of Love
As quoted in Can You Feel the Silence? Van Morrison: A New Biography (2003) by Clinton Heylin
Good Morning Blues : The Autobiography of Count Basie (1985) by Count Basie and Albert Murray