“We are ashamed to seem evasive in the presence of a straightforward man, cowardly in the presence of a brave one, gross in the eyes of a refined one, and so on. We always imagine, and in imagining share, the judgments of the other mind. A man will boast to one person of an action — say some sharp transaction in trade-^which he would be ashamed to own to another.”

— Charles Cooley

Source: Human Nature and the Social Order, 1902, p. 184-5 (1922)

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American sociologist 1864–1929

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