“Until you deal with your real personal issues, you'll never be able to control yourself.”

“You'll never get to a person's soul until you understand their hurts.”

“When you can see your permanent truth clearly you'll be able to deal with any temporary condition effectively.”

“Until you can ignore your circumstances, and just do as you promise," he says, "you'll always be controlled by the world.”

“Who is the loving person? The loving person is the person who loves him or herself. I say this so often, and people say, "Oh yes, you're so right," but they don't do it! You will never be able to love anyone else until you love yourself. Even With your Fat Thighs!”

“Mingling with people, hurting them, getting hurt by them…that's how you learn about others…and about yourself. If you don't you'll never be able to care about anyone but yourself.”

“You'll never understand the way the worlds really work until you surround yourself with people from all sorts of weird backgrounds.”

“It is not possible to control the outside of yourself until you have mastered your breathing space. It is not possible to change anything until you understand the substance you wish to change.”

“Be authentic. Don't try to be someone you aren't. You'll hate yourself for it & the effort to maintain the facade will exhaust you. BE REAL! Many won't like the real you but that's better than having people adore the person that isn't you at all”

“The real butches are straight … dealing with and controlling men makes you stronger.”