“These are the people who hate themselves because they haven't come to terms with their helplessness. They feel threatened by helplessness itself, not by those who caused or reinforced the feeling, and this is what produces their boundless rage. Therefore, they repress their helplessness, which has made them feel rejected and despised, at the same time oppressing their 'oppressors' contempt for them.”

— Arno Gruen

The Betrayal of the Self - The Fear of Autonomy in Men and Women (1986)

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German psychologist 1923–2015

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