“I do not believe it is in our nature to love impartially. We deceive ourselves when we think we can love two beings, even our own children, equally. There is always a dominant affection.”

— Napoleon I of France

Napoleon : In His Own Words (1916)

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French general, First Consul and later Emperor of the French 1769–1821

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