“When your father is alive, observe his will. When your father is dead observe his former actions. If, for three years [after the death of your father] you do not change from the ways of your father, you can be called a 'real son (xiào/hsiao).”

The Analects, Chapter I, Chapter IV

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Chinese teacher, editor, politician, and philosopher -551–-479 BC

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