“The Samoan puts the burden of amatory success upon the man and believes that women need more initiating, more time for maturing of sexual feeling. A man who fails to satisfy a woman is looked upon as a clumsy, inept blunderer.”

— Margaret Mead

Source: 1920s, Coming of Age in Samoa (1928), p. 91

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