“The element that people don't consider is that a friendship is about the only relationship we experience that is mutually voluntary. It is not really bound by family, money, or jobs. It is only bound by inclination. Once that is gone. It is gone. It feels powerful… it's not. It is delicate.”

— Stephen Tobolowsky

Stephen Tobolowsky in a Facebook comment on June 16, 2014 https://www.facebook.com/chendavid/posts/713475407441?comment_id=713488835531.

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