“Fearing discovery of their “fraudulence,” they burden themselves with too much work to compensate for their lack of self-esteem and identity. Work/life balance is a meaningless concept to them.”

—  Manfred F.R. Kets de Vries

The Dangers of Feeling Like a Fake, 2005

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