“Success for a woman means absolute surrender, in whatever direction. Whether she paints a picture, or loves a man, there is no division of labor possible in her economy. To the attainment of any end worth living for, a symmetrical sacrifice of her nature is compulsory upon her.”

—  Elizabeth Stuart Phelps

The Study of Avis (1877)

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American author, intellectual and feminist 1844–1911

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