“Homophobia entails not only the fear of those who are abjectly identified (and depended on) but also the fear of being abjectly identifiable onself: the fear, as the word most literally means, of being 'the same as'. This latter fear is arguably a much stronger component of homophobia than of, say, sexism or racism (despite the mechanisms of projection and abjection doubtless at work in those forms of hatred), because the sexist male or the racist white is in much less 'danger' of being 'mistaken' for a woman or a nonwhite than the straight is of being 'mistaken' for a queer.”

“The amount of racism, sexism, homophobia, and hatred in general that lies beneath the surface of the American dream is astounding and serious.”

“The fear of death comes from identifying yourself as the body. The earthly component, rather than the pure soul within.”

“Being respected as a reflection of fear will only last as long as the fear remains. Conversely, being respected as a form of love will last forever.”

“Fear of emotional contact with men out of fear of being a sexual suspect makes boys, ironically, even more powerless before girls. Homophobia is like telling the United States it will be a sissy nation if it doesn’t get all its oil from OPEC.”

“Alone. It's one of those small words that means entirely too much. Like fear. Or trust.”

“Don’t mistake being fearful and weak-minded for being nice.”

“The aphorism is cultivated only by those who have known fear in the midst of words, that fear of collapsing with all the words.”

“Happiness is the illusion of being happy, unhappiness is the fear of being it. A little bit of fear helps you to live in the light, too much strangles you in the dark.”

“Putting up with the fear of being with the wrong person because you can't deal with the fear of being alone.”