
“If you're going to sit on someone's tombstone, you might as well know something about them, right?”
Source: A Walk to Remember
As quoted in TIME (9 December 1966) - photograph of her with a pillow bearing the quotation http://www.usatoday.com/life/books/reviews/2007-12-12-roosevelt_N.htm
Variants:
If you haven't anything nice to say about anybody, come sit next to me.
If you haven't something good to say about someone sit right here by me.
“If you're going to sit on someone's tombstone, you might as well know something about them, right?”
Source: A Walk to Remember
Up to You Now.
Song lyrics, White Lies for Dark Times (2009)
2000s, Progressive magazine interview (2003)
Context: This supposed idyllic society we have is the most confused, warped, addicted society in the history of the world. We are addicted to power, we're addicted to our own image of ourselves, to violence, divorce, abortion, and sex. Any whim of the human character is deeded in us 100-fold. We're number one in child abuse, pornography, divorce, all of these categories; that's how we get paid back. You can't project something on someone else that is damaging that person and not become that yourself, it seems to me.
“But you can't make someone be something they're not.”
Source: Cross My Heart, Hope to Die