“Women who are either indisputably beautiful, or indisputably ugly, are best flattered upon the score of their understandings; but those who are in a state of mediocrity are best flattered upon their beauty, or at least their graces; for every woman who is not absolutely ugly thinks herself handsome.”

5 September 1748
Letters to His Son on the Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman (1774)

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British statesman and man of letters 1694–1773

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