“Our partner's sexuality does not belong to us. It isn't just for and about us, and we should not assume that it rightfully falls within our jurisdiction.”

— Esther Perel

Source: Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic

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Belgian Psychotherapist and Author 1958

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