„Love is a combination of care, commitment, knowledge, responsibility, respect and trust.“

—  Bell Hooks

Source: Communion: The Female Search for Love

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American author, feminist, and social activist 1952

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„Care and responsibility are constituent elements of love, but without respect for and knowledge of the beloved person, love deteriorates into domination and possessiveness.“

—  Erich Fromm German social psychologist and psychoanalyst 1900 - 1980

Source: Man for Himself (1947), Ch. 3; in Ch. 2 of his later work The Art of Loving (1956) a similar statement is made :
Context: Care and responsibility are constituent elements of love, but without respect for and knowledge of the beloved person, love deteriorates into domination and possessiveness. Respect is not fear and awe; it denotes, in accordance with the root of the word (respicere = to look at), the ability to see a person as he is, to be aware of his individuality and uniqueness. To respect a person is not possible without knowing him; care and responsibilty would be blind if they were not guided by the knowledge of the person's individuality.

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„Care and responsibility are constituent elements of love, but without respect for and knowledge of the beloved person, love deteriorates into domination and possessiveness. Respect is not fear and awe; it denotes, in accordance with the root of the word (respicere = to look at), the ability to see a person as he is, to be aware of his individuality and uniqueness. To respect a person is not possible without knowing him; care and responsibilty would be blind if they were not guided by the knowledge of the person's individuality.“

—  Erich Fromm German social psychologist and psychoanalyst 1900 - 1980

Source: Man for Himself (1947), Ch. 3; in Ch. 2 of his later work The Art of Loving (1956) a similar statement is made :
Respect is not fear and awe; it denotes, in accordance with the root of the word (respicere = to look at), the ability to see a person as he is, to be aware of his unique individuality. Respect, thus, implies the absence of exploitation. I want the loved person to grow and unfold for his own sake, and in his own ways, and not for the purpose of serving me.

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„Feelings of love and gratitude arise directly and spontaneously in the baby in response to the love and care of his mother.“

—  Melanie Klein British psychoanalyst 1882 - 1960

Klein (1937, p. 311) as cited in: David Mann (2013) Love and Hate: Psychoanalytic Perspectives. p. 79

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„Salvation can be attained only through pure and unsullied love of God (combined with knowledge of His greatness).“

—  Madhvacharya Hindu philosopher who founded Dvaita Vedanta school 1199 - 1278

Beginner’s Guide to Sri MadhvAchArya’s Life and Philosophy

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„I can fight only for something that I love. I can love only what I respect. And in order to respect a thing I must at least have some knowledge of it.“

—  Adolf Hitler, book Mein Kampf

Variant: And I can fight only for something that I love, love only what I respect, and respect only what I at least know.
Source: Mein Kampf

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„Learned and leisurely hospitality is the only antidote to the stance of deadly cleverness that is acquired in the professional pursuit of objectively secured knowledge. I remain certain that the quest for truth cannot thrive outside the nourishment of mutual trust flowering into a commitment to friendship.“

—  Ivan Illich austrian philosopher and theologist 1926 - 2002

The Cultivation of Conspiracy (1998)
Context: Learned and leisurely hospitality is the only antidote to the stance of deadly cleverness that is acquired in the professional pursuit of objectively secured knowledge. I remain certain that the quest for truth cannot thrive outside the nourishment of mutual trust flowering into a commitment to friendship. Therefore, I have tried to identify the climate that fosters and the "conditioned" air that hinders the growth of friendship.

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„Many crimes have men committed in the name of the God of Love, moved by this nightmare of superstition; be very careful therefore that no slightest trace of it remains in you.“

—  Jiddu Krishnamurti Indian spiritual philosopher 1895 - 1986

§ IV
1910s, At the Feet of the Master (1911)
Context: Superstition is another mighty evil, and has caused much terrible cruelty. The man who is a slave to it despises others who are wiser, tries to force them to do as he does. Think of the awful slaughter produced by the superstition that animals should be sacrificed, and by the still more cruel superstition that man needs flesh for food. Think of the treatment which superstition has meted out to the depressed classes in our beloved India, and see in that how this evil quality can breed heartless cruelty even among those who know the duty of brotherhood. Many crimes have men committed in the name of the God of Love, moved by this nightmare of superstition; be very careful therefore that no slightest trace of it remains in you.

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„In democratic countries knowledge of how to combine is the mother of all other forms of knowledge; on its progress depends that of all the others.“

—  Alexis De Tocqueville, book Democracy in America

Book Two, Chapter V.
Democracy in America, Volume II (1840), Book Two
Context: Americans of all ages, all stations of life, and all types of disposition are forever forming associations... In democratic countries knowledge of how to combine is the mother of all other forms of knowledge; on its progress depends that of all the others.

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„We trust as we love, and we trust where we love; if you love Christ much surely you will trust Him much.“

—  Thomas Brooks English Puritan 1608 - 1680

Source: Quotes from secondary sources, Dictionary of Burning Words of Brilliant Writers, 1895, P. 589.

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„Respect for the word is the first commandment in the discipline by which a man can be educated to maturity — intellectual, emotional, and moral.
Respect for the word — to employ it with scrupulous care and in incorruptible heartfelt love of truth — is essential if there is to be any growth in a society or in the human race.“

—  Dag Hammarskjöld Swedish diplomat, economist, and author 1905 - 1961

Markings (1964)
Context: Respect for the word is the first commandment in the discipline by which a man can be educated to maturity — intellectual, emotional, and moral.
Respect for the word — to employ it with scrupulous care and in incorruptible heartfelt love of truth — is essential if there is to be any growth in a society or in the human race.
To misuse the word is to show contempt for man. It undermines the bridges and poisons the wells. It causes Man to regress down the long path of his evolution.
"But I say unto you, that every idle word that men speak..."

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„Love as a verb. Love as a commitment.“

—  Emily Giffin American writer 1972

Source: Love the One You're With

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