“Reputation is what other people know about you. Honor is what you know about yourself.”

“If you reveal everything, bare every feeling, ask for understanding, you lose something crucial to your sense of yourself. You need to know things that others don't know. It's what no one knows about you that allows you to know yourself.”

“Worry more about your character than your reputation. Character is what you are, reputation merely what others think you are.”

“Do you know what a good life is? A good life is a life in which you never have to think about yourself again. You know why? Because you can't think about yourself without producing fear.”

“Expectation wasn't just about what people expected of you. It was about what you expected of yourself.”

“It's impossible to discover who you really are if you limit what you are willing to find out about yourself to only what you want to know.”

“The minute you start caring about what other people think, is the minute you stop being yourself.”

“When it comes to people -- don't write about who you know; but what you know of human nature.”

“If you want to know what you think of yourself, then ask yourself what you think of others, and you will find your answer.”

“Never ask people. Not about your work. Don't you know what you want? How can you stand it, not to know?”