“Being sent to bed is a terrible command to all children, because it means the most public possible humiliation in front of adults, the confession that they bear the stigma of childhood, of being small and having a child's need for sleep.”

—  Stefan Zweig

Source: The Burning Secret and other stories

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Austrian writer 1881–1942

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