“There is a big difference between feeling shame and being shamed… The feeling we call shame is a natural biological affective reaction that is occurring when we fear social consequence. To shame someone is to use the natural biological affective reaction of shame as a tool for manipulating and controlling someone to suit your own interests.”

—  Teal Swan

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American spiritual teacher 1984

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