“Friendship needs a certain parallelism of life, a community of thought, a rivalry of aim.”

—  Henry Adams

The Education of Henry Adams (1907)
Context: One friend in a lifetime is much; two are many; three are hardly possible. Friendship needs a certain parallelism of life, a community of thought, a rivalry of aim.

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