“Thinking more of others’ happiness than of her own was very fine; but did it not mean giving up her very individuality, quenching all the warm love, the true desires, that made her herself? Yet in this deadness lay her only comfort; so it seemed.”

— Elizabeth Gaskell , book Wives and Daughters

Wives and Daughters, ch. 11
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