“We can recognize the dawn and the decline of love by the uneasiness we feel when alone together.”

—  Jean de La Bruyère , book Les Caractères

Le commencement et le déclin de l'amour se font sentir par l'embarras où l'on est de se trouver seuls.
Aphorism 33
Les Caractères (1688), Du Coeur

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Le commencement et le déclin de l'amour se font sentir par l'embarras où l'on est de se trouver seuls.

Les Caractères, 1696

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