“They spent their time doing nothing… they let intimacy fuse them.”

“Intimacy doesn't have all that much to do with backseats of cars. Real intimacy is brushing your teeth together.”

“Attention and activity lead to mistakes as well as to successes; but a life spent in making mistakes is not only more honorable but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.”

“Not for the first time, I reflected that intimacy and romance are not synonymous.”

“There is nothing more notable in Socrates than that he found time, when he was an old man, to learn music and dancing, and thought it time well spent.”

“If a man is really into you, nothing will stop him from being with you - including a fear of intimacy.”

“When John Lennon sings, "Oh, my love/For the first time in my life/My eyes are wide open" — these songs have an intimacy for me that's not just between people, I realize now, not just sexual intimacy. A spiritual intimacy.”

“Time spent reading, like time spent loving, increases our lifetime.”

“If you could stop the suffering and dying, and didn't stop it, then you are guilty. It is your fault.
We kill no one. We do not let them kill us. We have nothing to do with them.”

“This is what intimacy does to us over time. That's what a long marriage can do: It causes us to inherit and trade each other's stories. (p.237)”