“The 'taking love' leads to feelings of attachment, jealousy, anger, and childish self-absorption, while the 'giving love,' intrinsic in the tenets of Buddhism, encompasses the whole enjoyable realm of love, compassion, sympathetic joy, and equanimity.”

—  Lama Ole Nydahl

Buddha & Love: Timeless Wisdom for Modern Relationships (2012)

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