“Lend yourself to others, but give yourself to yourself.”

— Michel De Montaigne , book Essays

Source: Essais (1595), Book III, Chapter X. Of Managing the Will. End of First Paragraph.

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(1533-1592) French-Occitan author, humanistic philosopher, … 1533–1592

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