Warren Farrell: Trending quotes (page 8)

“The worst aspect of dating from the perspective of many men is how dating can feel to a man like robbery by social custom – the social custom of him taking money out of his pocket, giving it to her, and calling it a date. To a young man, the worst dates feel like being robbed and rejected. Boys risk death to avoid rejection”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

e.g., by joining the Army
Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 314.

Death , Men , Money , Feeling

“In brief, we do more research on men in prison, men in the military, and men in general than we do on women for the same reason we do more research on rats than we do on humans.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 189.

Women , Men

“He gets sex, she gets sex; if that is considered unequal, no wonder men are afraid of commitment.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 240.

Men , Sex

“We have restricted humans from giving ‘free’ food to bears and dolphins because we know that such feeding would make them dependent and lead to their extinction. But when it comes to our own species, we have difficulty seeing the connection between short-term kindness and long-term cruelty; we give women money to have more children, making them more dependent with each child and discouraging them from developing the tools to fend for themselves. The real discrimination against women, then, is ‘free feeding’.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 346.

Women , Money , Children , Food

“By attending to the conscious part of ourselves, we contribute to the peace of others as well as ourselves.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Interview by Jonathan Robinson (1994), p. 134.

Peace , Parting

“When a government requires a man to support a child he was tricked into creating, that government subsidizes fraud. No. It is worse than that: It subsidizes the woman using a man’s body for 18-21 years without his consent.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 143.

Support , Fraud

“Male Message 1 is subconsciously experienced by the boy like this: ‘Some girls in my class already look like movie stars. If they wanted me as much as I want them, then I’d know I was okay. They are genetic celebrities. I am a genetic groupie.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 111.

Girl , Star , Boy

“All societies that have survived have survived based on their ability to prepare their sons to be disposable, in war and at work--and therefore as dads.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Part I.
The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part 1: The Myth of Male Power

War

“Blacks are six times more likely than whites to be victims of homicides.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 214.

Time

“Humans have spent (10k+) years learning to fight and debate with the other side, and almost no time learning to listen and empathize.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000), p. 18.

Learning , Time , Fight

“To me, God is the accumulated wisdom I've gathered throughout my life. When I pay attention, my body gives me a printout of this wisdom.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Interview by Jonathan Robinson (1994), p. 183.

Life , Wisdom , God

“Becoming a human doing was exactly what society needed. But for an individual man, becoming a human doing was his undoing.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

“The worst form anger can take is that of a parent who feels her or his chance for “winning my child” is enhanced by “ruining my ex.” The law has given the most vindictive parent an invitation to play the “abuse” card. This is the “Great Temptation.””

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 199.

Law , Feeling , Parent , Chance

“The corporate Catch-22: Don't be flexible, lose good women; be flexible, lose good women… A company listening to women's desires for [flexibility and therefore] fewer promotions, giving fewer promotions to women, and then being sued for giving fewer promotions to women. Yiddish has a word for this: chutzpah.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 111-12.

Women

“A man fears that conflict with his wife will lead to less intimacy, not more intimacy.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000), p. 17.

Fear

“If a female employee is offended, a boss would like her to tell him, not sue him.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 294.

“There are 25 differences in the way women and men behave in the workplace. These 25 differences lead to men receiving higher pay and women having better lives—or at least more balanced lives.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. xvii.

Women , Men , Way

“Imagine how we would feel if I began this section saying, Today, violence against women is rightly applauded. We would know I favored the death of women; when we applaud for violence against men, we favor the death of men. We do it because we have learned that the more effectively we prepare men to sacrifice themselves, the more we are protected.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part 1: The Myth of Male Power, p. 76.

Death , Women , Men , Feeling

“Any guy who’s played team sports has practiced a skill I call “team sport empathy”: he’s practiced focusing on anticipating the other team’s moves. That means figuring out their way of looking at the situation.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000), p. 32.

Way , Guy , Sport

“Unemployment to a man is the psychological equivalent of rape to a woman.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 172.