Warren Farrell: Trending quotes (page 19)

“Divorce laws have given women economic support after divorce; no laws have given men emotional support after divorce. Men are required to continue their obligations to their exes in the form of alimony or child support; women are not required to continue their obligation to their exes in the form of homemaking or nurturing.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Women , Men , Law , Support

“If a man ignoring a woman’s verbal “no” is committing date rape, then a woman who says “no” with her verbal language but “yes” with her body language is committing date fraud. And a woman who continues to be sexual even after she says “no” is committing date lying.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

p 314.
The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband

Lying , Fraud

“Many women are discovering that the motherhood instinct implies a responsibility to be certain children have dads -- everyday, not far away; and some are aware that economic independence requires not holding on to her child as if it were her job.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 239.

Women , Children

“We had affirmative action programs to help women help themselves economically. Is it now time for affirmative action programs to do for men’s feelings what the government did for women’s economics?”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Women , Men , Feeling , Time

“In the future, women will increasingly want nurturer-connectors, since part of what he will be nurturing is her ability to protect herself.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Women , Future , Parting

“During what years should a child be introduced to better ways of giving and receiving criticisms – to what I call “relationship language”? Before school age. The best teacher? Parents.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000), p. 36.

Age , School , Way , Parent

“The best-selling magazines to men are Playboy and Penthouse. These represent men’s primary fantasy: access to as many beautiful women as desired without risk of rejection. The best-selling magazines to women are Better Homes and Gardens and Family Circle, representing the female primary fantasy: better homes and gardens and a family circle.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 18.

Women , Men , Family , Beauty

“The Industrial Revolution, then, took men’s occasional absence from home -- previously needed only in wartime and for hunting -- and made it the norm. This increasing division of labor magnified the division of men’s and women’s interests. It magnified the belief in the maternal instinct and the reality of the distant father. Prior to industrialization, divorces usually led to children living with dads. Not after.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 88.

Women , Men , Children , Home

“If the law tries to legislate our “yeses” and “noes” it will produce “the straitjacket generation” – a generation afraid to flirt, fearful of finding its love notes in a court suit. Date rape legislation will force suitors and courting to give way to courts and suing.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 340.

Love , Fear , Law , Way

“Just as the Depression left a generation of dads feeling they never had enough money, so father deprivation is leaving a generation of sons and daughters with different psychic wounds.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 121.

Money , Feeling , Daughters

“When a parent denies a child its “parent time,” that parent is denying the child its child support -- its psychological child support.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 187.

Support , Parent , Time

“In more than thirty years of conducting workshops, no one has ever said to me, “Warren, I want a divorce – my partner understands me.””

Warren Farrell

Source: Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000), p. 15.

Understanding

“A week after you read this chapter, misandry will become apparent in commercials, in films, in everyday conversations. But the bias that is hardest to see is the bias we share.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Reading

“Both parents’ rights must be in balance so children can grow up with a balance between both parents.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 126.

Children , Parent

“Irony: While we increasingly hold people more responsible if they drink and drive, we hold women less responsible if they drink and have sex.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 320.

Women , People , Sex , Drink

“I could be a much better role model by sharing more openly with him my shadow side, my faults, my mistakes, asking him to be my teacher rather than being his.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 120.

Teachers

“The Female Western is the battle between the good and evil methods of getting the men who perform best.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 73.

Men , Evil

“In order to connect and nurture, it is not just helpful to be in touch with feelings, it is necessary. So men’s first job – their next evolutionary strategy – involves being in touch with their feelings.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Men , Feeling , Help

“Gay sex meant two hours of sexual pleasure in exchange for two hours of sexual pleasure. Heterosexual sex meant two hours of sexual pleasure in exchange for a lifetime of responsibility. Heterosexuality was a bad deal! The fear behind homophobia was that no one would be providing for the next generation. Everybody would be having fun. Thus fun became a sign of immaturity; hedonism in many forms became illegal.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 208.

Pleasure , Fear , Sex

“Teaching children to debate without teaching children to listen is divorce training.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000), p. 36.

Children , Training