Warren Farrell: Trending quotes (page 17)

“Shifting our attitudes about the future of fathers requires shifting our attitudes about the way our fathers loved. Recognizing that the rigid roles of the past were not designed by men to serve only men is not unrelated to shifting our attitudes toward dad.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 239.

Love , Men , Way , Past

“Sexual harassment in the workplace confuses rewards for performance with rewards for attractiveness and sexual availability.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 284-5.

“The Government as Substitute Husband did for women what labor unions still have not accomplished for men. And men pay dues for labor unions; the taxpayer pays the dues for feminism. Feminism and government soon become taxpayer-supported women’s unions.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 344.

Women , Men , Support

“Misandry – or man hating – is the equivalent of misogyny. If you are unaware of misandry, welcome to the club.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Hate

“As long as society tells men to be the salespersons of sex, it is sexist for society to put only men in jail if they sell well. We don’t put other salespersons in jail for buying clients drinks and successfully transforming a “no” into a “maybe” into a “yes.” If the client makes a choice to drink too much and the “yes” turns out to be a bad decision, it is the client who gets fired, not the salesperson.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 321.

Men , Sex , Drink , Decision

“Your daughter says, 'Dad. Mom. I want to join the armed services.' You look at her beautiful face, her life flashes before your eyes, and you see a body bag. Now's the time to let her know the biggest military secret: She can join the military and be as safe-from-death as she would be at home. How? In the war in Iraq, not a single woman has been killed in the Air Force. Nor has a single woman been killed in the Marines. And only one has died in the Navy. Your only job is to keep her out of the Army.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 30.

Life , Death , War , Secret

“Laws with broad definitions of rape are like laws making 55 mile per hour speed limits for men and no speed limits for women.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 317.

Women , Men , Law , Speed

“Women-in-jeopardy movies are, in essence, the updated versions of men dying to save the princess from the dragon to earn her love. They are modern-day training films for teaching women to select the best protectors while weeding out the rest.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 225.

Love , Women , Men , Princess

“Our choice of partners is perhaps the clearest single statement of our choice of values. Therefore, when we blame our partner for anything, we should really be confronting ourselves. Not as in “Yes, I made a bad choice,” but as in “How does this choice reflect my values?””

Warren Farrell

Source: Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000), p. 17.

“All defensive responses to criticism are natural. (It is natural to think of our own perspective before someone else’s.)”

Warren Farrell

Source: Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000), p. 40.

Nature , Thinking

“The more our children see men being paid to take responsibility for children, the more respectable it will be for men to do work compatible with their role as dads.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 115.

Men , Children

“Men often become nonviolent in societies that (1) have adequate amounts of food, (2) have adequate amounts of water, and (3) perceive themselves as isolated from attack. For example, the Tahitian men, the Minoan men on Crete, and the Central Malaysian Semai were nonviolent during the period in their history when all three of these conditions prevailed.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part 1: The Myth of Male Power, p. 77.

Men , Food , History , Water

“Most mothers want more of dad in their children’s lives, not less.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 186.

Children

“Although a government study found that men’s health was much worse than women’s health or the health of any minority group, headlines around the country read: ‘Minorities Face Large Health Care Gap.’ They did not say: ‘Men Face Large Health Care Gap.’ Why? Because we associate the sacrifice of men’s lives with the saving of the rest of us, and this association leads us to carry in our unconscious an incentive not to care about men living longer.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 196.

Women , Men , Health , Study

“With men, we blame the victim. We blame men because we have camouflaged men’s victimization by teaching men to also be the victimizer. Men’s victimizer status camouflages men’s victim status.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part IV: Where do we go from here, p. 357.

Men

“Men goeth to that place from which appreciation cometh.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 238.

Men

“It is important for a father who feels pushed away to say, in effect, "When you do that, I feel unwanted as a father," or "I feel my rough-housing is not bad parenting; it's my contribution to helping our child take risks." Women cannot hear what men do not say.”

Warren Farrell

page 105.
Father and Child Reunion (2001)

Women , Men , Feeling , Parent

“Somehow, women’s romance novels are not titled He Stopped When I Said “No”. They are, though, titled Sweet Savage Love, in which the woman rejects the hand of her gentler lover who saves her from the rapist and marries the man who repeatedly and savagely rapes her. It is this “marry the rapist” theme that not only turned Sweet Savage Love into a best-seller but also into one of women’s most enduring romance novels.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 315.

Love , Women , Lovers

“When I see dads being most effective with children, it is usually when they have an intuitive understanding that, for example, the car trip to and from the soccer game is potentially as important as the game itself.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 118.

Children , Cars , Game , Understanding

“I feel awed by the mystery of being both so finite and yet so infinite, so much and so little, so conscious and yet, so coincidental.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Interview by Jonathan Robinson (1994), p. 46-47.

Feeling