Warren Farrell: Trending quotes (page 12)

“A man cannot tell whether a woman is in love with him or his security blanket until she is financially and psychologically independent enough to leave. Until a woman has learned how to leave, even she cannot be sure she has learned to love.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 182.

Love , Learning

“Black men, Indian men, and gay men have all have something in common: They do not provide an economic security blanket for women.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 206.

Women , Men

“We cannot think of dads as being nurturing if we think of men as being self-serving.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 240.

Men , Thinking

“There is what might be called a Catch-22 of hazardous occupations: The more hazardous the job, the more men; the more men, the less we care about making the job safer. The Catch-22 of hazardous occupations creates a 'glass cellar' which few women wish to enter. Women are alienated not just out of the fear of being hurt on the job, but by an atmosphere that can make a hazardous job more hazardous than it needs to be.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 27.

Women , Men , Fear , Hurt

“Today, violence against women is rightly abhorred. But we call violence against men entertainment. Think of football, boxing, wrestling… All are games used to sugarcoat violence against men, originally in need of sugarcoating so our team --or our society --could bribe its best protectors to sacrifice themselves.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part 1: The Myth of Male Power, p. 75.

Women , Men , Game , Thinking

“Our children are better served by speaking not of “visitation” versus “custody,” but of “parent time.””

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 187.

Children , Parent , Time

“The solution to all this is not criminalization but resocialization.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 340.

“Unless a woman asks men out (the first time) as often as men ask her out, then the assertion He asked me out, therefore he pays is just a double jeopardy of the male role: he must not only do the asking, he must pay extra for risking extra rejection.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 277.

Men , Time

“A person working 45 hours per week averages 44% more income than someone working 40 hours per week. That’s 44% more income for 13% more time.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. xviii.

Time , Personality

“During the years I was on the board of directors of the National Organization for Women [chapter] in New York City, the most resistant audiences I ever faced in the process of doing corporate workshops on equality in the workplace were not male executives—they were the wives of male executives. As long as her income came from her husband, she was not feeling generous when affirmative action let another woman have a head start vying for her husband’s (her) income.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part 1: The Myth of Male Power, p. 46.

Women , Feeling

“It is important that a woman’s “noes” be respected and her “yeses” be respected. And it is also important when her nonverbal “yeses” (tongues still touching) conflict with those verbal “noes” that the man not be put in jail for choosing the “yes” over the “no.””

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

He might just be trying to become her fantasy.
Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 315.

“This is the first time in history that we’ve had this level of luxury, so we have a new opportunity to rethink the way we approach God.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Interview by Jonathan Robinson (1994), p. 115.

God , Way , History , Time

“If we hold the married man accountable for finances gone legally awry, then the married woman should be held accountable for children who go awry.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 250.

Children

“In the case of a man and a woman [accused of commiting a crime together], both will often agree to the man taking the rap—despite the man being more likely to receive a longer sentence and more likely to be raped in prison. If blacks were agreeing to do that for whites, the black community would be smart enough to call that ‘learned subservience.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 243.

Communication , Learning

“What Men Would Say When Male-Bashing Is Called “Funny,” But Female-Bashing Is Called “Sexist””

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Men

“The feminist-only funding leads to studies that misinform the nation that a divorced mother is economically more hurt than a divorced man, so judges feel a mandate to make his future income hers, and legislatures feel fine about refusing to make his mother subsidy payments tax deductible even as she pays no taxes on the money received. And all this perpetuates the belief that he earns more money….”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 240.

Money , Feeling , Study , Future

“A mother’s traditional role prepared her to love her family by being with the family she loved.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Love , Family

“• Hazing is both testing and training to subordinate self to the team.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 295.

Training

“Do women avoid fields like engineering because of the tendency of male-dominated fields to discriminate against women? Probably not. Prior to the women's movement, engineering was no more male-dominated than medicine and law. And women have entered medicine and law by the droves. When women enter male-dominated fields, they tend to enter the more glamorous occupations. And the media reinforces this. There was L. A. Law, but no L. A. Engineering. ER doesn't mean Engineering Room. Women receive six layers of encouragement to enter fields involving engineering, computers, and math and science: first, better starting salaries than men's; second, special programs for girls in high school; third, female-only government scholarships; fourth, female-only corporate grants and scholarships; fifth, the advertising that reaches out to women to create a more female-supportive atmosphere; and sixth, special grants for science programs at leading women's colleges.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 25.

Women , Men , School , Law

“From these biased studies come biased social policy. Hundreds of millions of dollars to enforce sanctions against fathers who don’t pay mothers; almost nothing to enforce sanctions against mothers who don’t allow fathers to see children.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 241.

Children , Study