“The disaster of one person’s relationship paradigm being based in compromise and the other person's relationship paradigm being based in compatibility, can be seen in conflicts taking place across every kind of relationship.”Teal Swan Source: tealswan.com/quotes
“When something is real or true, it will feel stable and solid, even if you don’t feel “good” about it.”Teal Swan
“Consider that if a truth is able to destroy or destabilize something, that thing was not strong, real or stable in the first place. That stability you thought you had, was a total illusion. Your world was built on quicksand.”Teal Swan
“We have no shot at creating a thriving human society without seeing the truth. And we can’t create a thriving human society without making this a society that is conducive to people being truthful.”Teal Swan
“If we show or tell someone a truth about ourselves, it will cause them to become more clear about their truth. We have to develop the capacity to make room for both truths.”Teal Swan
“Truth is not a pain killer. This means that truth might bring the experience of relief, or it might bring the experience of pain. But either way, it holds within it the power of positive change.”Teal Swan
“Throw out previous teachings from people who seek to CONTROL instead of to KNOW THE TRUTH of their emotions.”Teal Swan
“With the right person, you will experience someone who is able not only to accept, but also to love the truth of you and meet your needs because it brings them pleasure to do so.”Teal Swan
“Open the flood gates and expose the truth of who you are, and all that will be left is people who accept it. All others will flee, you will be left with only those that are allies.”Teal Swan
“When you make a decision or take an action based off of something that isn’t true, it is absolutely guaranteed to fall apart; like building a sand castle where it will be washed away by the tide.”Teal Swan
“Dysfunctional relationship is not the exception. It is the norm. The only reason people don't realize it is because they've normalized the dysfunction.”Teal Swan
“Currently, what is expected is that a person does not get emotionally aroused or dysregulated, is not emotionally phased or affected by anything someone else does or does not do, does not blame anyone for what they do or don’t do that causes emotional harm and especially does not defend themselves from emotional harm. What is glorified in society is emotional neutrality/numbness… Not having emotions.”Teal Swan
“At the core, people are creators. They can conceptualize of what does not yet exist. And they can bring it into a physical manifestation.”Teal Swan
“If people would understand that what we are calling mental illness is really just adaptive strategies for mitigating unsafety, it would completely change the approach we take with regards to mental illness.”Teal Swan
“So many people are living from strategy instead of from authenticity. So many people are being strategic instead of honest; both with themselves and with others.”Teal Swan
“When we live in a society where people genuinely feel that what matters most is the romantic partnership, we have learned that other people will value and prioritize a romantic partner above all other relationships. Therefore, you are only genuinely secure and only have leverage for getting your needs met in a relationship, if you are that person’s romantic partner.”Teal Swan
“A romantic partner is not all there is. It is not your only hope of getting the needs that you have reliably met. It is not your only hope of happiness. A great many needs that you have, which you are convinced can only come in the form of a romantic partner, are actually not dependent on a romantic partner.”Teal Swan