Merle Shain: Quotes about marriage

Merle Shain was Canadian writer. Explore interesting quotes on marriage.
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“Good marriages seem to function something like a buddy system-- the people in them swim in their own waters but keep a protective eye on each other, and should the whistle blow, turn up quickly to hold each other's hand. It's more important today than ever before to know what your priorities are because life links us with more people than our hearts can hold, so men who know what they will go to the wall for, as well as for whom, are the ones whom it is nicest to be married to, presuming you're the one they have at the top of their list.”

Merle Shain

Some Men are More Perfect Than Others (1973)

Life , Men , Marriage , People

“It's in the fight, in the striving, in the mountains unclimbed that fulfillment lies, so if you have nothing to strive for, you have nothing to make you happy. When it comes to "for better" or "for worse," "for better" is often harder on a marriage.”

Merle Shain

Some Men are More Perfect Than Others (1973)

Marriage , Mountain , Fight , Happiness

“There are problems connected with infidelity and problems connected with being faithful at any cost, and I am for letting those concerned choose the problems they'd prefer. There need not be one rule for all. Infidelity is enlarging and fragmenting and very very dangerous, but it has been known to retrieve people as well as marriages, so it can't be only bad. And while a lot of women would probably consider it better to have the man they care about rip-off other women if he must but hurry home again, I think I'd rather he be concerned about the survival of the people he sleeps with, even those who are not me. Men who take advantage of one woman take advantage of them all, and if he's going to have an experience in which I can't share, then I'd rather it be a good one, so if there are any benefits to trickle down the spout they'll be the kind I'd want.”

Merle Shain

Some Men are More Perfect Than Others (1973)

Women , Men , Marriage , People

“You tend to have far more real, intense friendships when you are single, perhaps because you can be more honest when you do not have the marriage or someone else's feelings to protect.”

Merle Shain

Some Men are More Perfect Than Others (1973)

Friendship , Marriage , Feeling

“People who are loving toward each other set up their marriages so that it is possible for both partners to get what they need from life and so that no one is expected to give up his needs to meet those of his spouse. And when their partner meets one of their needs they accept it as a gift, instead of viewing each unmet one as if it were a betrayal.”

Merle Shain

Some Men are More Perfect Than Others (1973)

Love , Life , Marriage , People

“Marriages should be as diverse as the people in them are, which means that some will be one of a kind, and some totally different still. And those who don't want to love, honor and obey, should be able to promise each other anything they choose, without having to ask anyone what they think of that, particularly themselves.”

Merle Shain

Some Men are More Perfect Than Others (1973)

Love , Marriage , People , Thinking

“If one of the problems of marriage is that safety can lead to complacency, then one of the advantages of being single is that one is never safe enough to grow complacent, and constantly having to prove oneself often leads to growth.”

Merle Shain

Some Men are More Perfect Than Others (1973)

Marriage , Problem

“It is not possible for one person to meet all of another's needs and marriage partners who expect this soon find each other wanting.”

Merle Shain

Some Men are More Perfect Than Others (1973)

Marriage , Personality

“I'm not sure there can be loving without commitment, although commitment takes all kinds and forms, and there can be commitment for the moment as well as commitment for all time. The kind that is essential for loving marriages-- and love affairs, as well-- is a commitment to preserving the essential quality of your partner's soul, adding to them rather than taking away.”

Merle Shain

Some Men are More Perfect Than Others (1973)

Love , Marriage , Soul , Time