
“Women who love themselves are threatening; but men who love real women, more so.”
Source: The Beauty Myth
The Beauty Myth: How Images of Beauty Are Used Against Women is a nonfiction book by Naomi Wolf, published in 1990 by Chatto & Windus. It was republished in 2002 by HarperPerennial with a new introduction.
“Women who love themselves are threatening; but men who love real women, more so.”
Source: The Beauty Myth
“She wins who calls herself beautiful and challenges the world to change to truly see her.”
Source: The Beauty Myth
“The beauty myth is always actually prescribing behavior and not appearance.”
Source: Chapter 1 : 'The Beauty Myth', p. 14
“What little girls learn is not the desire for the other, but the desire to be desired.”
Source: The Beauty Myth (1991), Chapter 5 : 'Sex', p. 157
Context: The books and films they see survey from the young boy's point of view his first touch of a girl's thighs, his first glimpse of her breasts. The girls sit listening, absorbing, their familiar breasts estranged as if they were not part of their bodies, their thighs crossed self-consciously, learning how to leave their bodies and watch them from the outside. Since their bodies are seen from the point of view of strangeness and desire, it is no wonder that what should be familiar, felt to be whole, becomes estranged and divided into parts. What little girls learn is not the desire for the other, but the desire to be desired. Girls learn to watch their sex along with the boys; that takes up the space that should be devoted to finding out about what they are wanting, and reading and writing about it, seeking it and getting it.