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“There is a big difference between feeling shame and being shamed… The feeling we call shame is a natural biological affective reaction that is occurring when we fear social consequence. To shame someone is to use the natural biological affective reaction of shame as a tool for manipulating and controlling someone to suit your own interests.”

“No matter what your "should standard" would have you believe, the truth is that there is no shame in struggling.”

“Much of the process of socialization that took place in the past and that takes place today, is a process of using the control tactic of shaming so as to create the desired behavior that we want.”

“To live is to suffer, to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering.”

“Perhaps all pleasure is only relief.”

“In dreams, beyond imagination, there is always a part of life.”

“Depression is, that your body saying „Fuck you. I don't want to be this character anymore. I don't want to hold up this avatar that you've created. It's too much for me.“ You should think of the word "depressed" as deep rest. Your body needs to be depressed. It needs deep rest from the character that you've been trying to play.”

“There are so few who have all the talents requisite for translation and… there is so little encouragement for so considerable part of learning.”

“While present-day literature undeniably stands upon this legacy, it in a sense also began by rejecting that legacy.”

“I don't know why people expect art to make sense. Life doesn't make sense.”

“The true gift of existing, you understand it by living.”

“Always have a dose of hope for better times, in difficult periods, helps to feel alive.”

“Nothing can destroy iron, only its own rust can. Likewise, nothing can destroy you, only your own mindset can.”

“Every relationship is transactional, whether it is a business relationship, a romantic relationship, a political relationship, a friendship, or a familial relationship.”

“One of the biggest barriers to people getting their needs met in the modern world is that so many people glorify the romantic partnership while devaluing every other type of relationship.”

“People and families and cultures and religions and government organizations and educational sources and forms of entertainment have all been indoctrinating you with the false idea that marriage is the most important relationship you will have. And that the romantic pair bond is the only relationship in which your needs can be met.”

“If we see a romantic partnership as the only relationship that promises to meet our needs, the only one that will make us happy, the only one in which we can feel secure and establish a sense of guarantee, we will fail to recognize and we will devalue all of the other forms of relationships around us; as well as the plentitude of resources that each one offers us.”

“If we see a romantic partnership as the only relationship that promises to meet our needs, we will put all the pressure on that other person to be the one to meet all of our needs, which is impossible. No one person can meet all of our needs. So, it is a set up for disappointment and for pain.”

“A romantic partner is not all there is. It is not your only hope of getting the needs that you have reliably met. It is not your only hope of happiness. A great many needs that you have, which you are convinced can only come in the form of a romantic partner, are actually not dependent on a romantic partner.”