“Instead of agonizing about the things you can't change, why don't you try working on the things you can change”

“If you don't like something, change it; if you can't change it, change the way you think about it.”

“Read – and be curious. And if somebody says to you: 'Things are this way. You can't change it' - don't believe a word.”

“Me personally and professionally, I haven't been that outspoken about race and class, partly because it's in my work, but in part because I don't want to get hate mail. I'm sick of trying to talk to people. I don't think you can change people. I think people have to be forced to do the right thing, so I'm not interested in trying to change people's opinion. I can illuminate, and you can see if you like. And if you can't see it, then just go buy the next book. But I'm sorry, I'm no longer interested in trying to be nice about what is right, because that doesn't work.”

“If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude.”

“Once you've chosen a man, don't try to change him', I wrote with more confidence. 'It can't be done. More important-don't let him try to change you.”

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

“You can't change the past, but you can ruin the present by worrying about the future.”

“Love is messy. If you really love someone, you can't avoid the pain. People die, people leave, things change, but sometimes it all works”

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”