“Stoicism, in our day, is not strength to overcome wishes, but to hide them.…Tendencies have become endemic in our culture for our denial of wishes to be rationalized and accepted with the belief that this denial of the wish will result in its being fulfilled.”

— Rollo May , book Love and Will

Source: Love and Will (1969), Ch. 10 : Intentionality in Therapy, p. 265

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US psychiatrist 1909–1994

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“Stoicism, in our day, is not strength to overcome wishes, but to hide them.…Tendencies have become endemic in our culture for our denial of wishes to be rationalized and accepted with the belief that this denial of the wish will result in its being fulfilled.”

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