“The sometimes-negative aspect of growing up in this country without a firm cultural basis is that your entire being becomes predicated on satisfying others. And I discovered that's what I was doing…”

— Tope Folarin

On discovering who he was during grad school in “Tope Folarin Was 'A Particular Kind Of Black Man' — So He Wrote A Book About It” https://www.npr.org/2019/08/24/751917486/tope-folarin-was-a-particular-kind-of-black-man-so-he-wrote-a-book-about-it in NPR (2019 Aug 24)

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