“Many women are discovering that the motherhood instinct implies a responsibility to be certain children have dads -- everyday, not far away; and some are aware that economic independence requires not holding on to her child as if it were her job.”

—  Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 239.

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