“The hardest-learned lesson: that people have only their kind of love to give, not our kind.”

— Mignon McLaughlin

The Complete Neurotic's Notebook (1981), Love

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American journalist 1913–1983

Sheri Booker American author, poet

Rejection never feels good, but as artists I think we tend to take rejection so personally. It can cause us to doubt our work or talent. However, rejection isn’t always someone saying we don’t like your work or you’re not talented. Sometimes it’s someone else recognizing that they can’t give you what you need to fly. It’s a venue saying this is not quite the right fit for you right now. That doesn’t mean that you won’t find home for your work. That doesn’t mean that venue won’t come looking for you one day. It means you have to keep working hard until you find the perfect fit and when the time is right it will work itself out.
On learning to take rejection in “Q&A Session with Award-Winning Author, Sheri Booker” https://www.huffpost.com/entry/interview-with-award-winning-author-sheri-booker_b_5684760 in HuffPost (2014 Aug 19)

“This is one of the hardest lessons for humans to learn. We cannot admit that things might be neither good nor evil, neither cruel nor kind, but simply callous – indifferent to all suffering, lacking all purpose.”

Richard Dawkins (1941) English ethologist, evolutionary biologist and author

River out of Eden (1995)

“Pain and suffering, they are a secret. Kindness and love, they are a secret. But I have learned that kindness and love can pay for pain and suffering.”

Alan Paton (1903–1988) South African writer and activist

Source: Cry, The Beloved Country

“The hardest lesson for humans to learn: that organic complexity will entail organic time.”

Kevin Kelly (1952) American author and editor

Out of Control: The New Biology of Machines, Social Systems and the Economic World (1995)

“Is it important to be right or is it important to do what’s right? That’s one of the hardest lessons to learn.”

James Patterson (1947) American author

Source: The Angel Experiment

“Be brave. Be open-minded. Be kind. Be forgiving. Be generous. Be optimistic. Be grateful for the many unexpected lessons you will learn.”

Dana Reeve (1961–2006) Actress, singer, activist

Middlebury College Address (2004)
Context: Be brave. Be open-minded. Be kind. Be forgiving. Be generous. Be optimistic. Be grateful for the many unexpected lessons you will learn. Find the joy inside the hardship. It’s there. I assure you. And, too, be open to inspiration from unlikely sources.