“When we train men for war, we lose some part of every man we train -- even if we win the war. When we train men to be better nurturers, even men who fail the course will have won. And so will every child they ever meet. Training men to love is a nation’s best investment.”

—  Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 112.

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