“To be true, you have to take the plunge, to touch bottom. But most people want to be in control. They fear the worst. You can’t control anything. What you have to do is let yourself be taken over... All the paintings I have made, I was compelled to make. You must never force yourself.”

—  Bram van Velde

1960's, Conversations with Samuel Beckett and Bram van Velde' (1965 - 1969)

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