“If I try to be or do something noble that has nothing to do with who I am, I may look good to others and to myself for a while. But the fact that I an exceeding my limits will eventually have consequences. I will distort myself, the other, and our relationship—and may end up doing more damage than if I had never set out to do this particular “good.””

— Parker Palmer

Source: Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation (1999), p. 47

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