“In erotic love, two people who were separate become one. In motherly love, two people who were one become separate. The mother must not only tolerate, she must wish and support the child’s separation.”

— Erich Fromm, book The Art of Loving

Source: The Art of Loving (1956), Ch. 2

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German social psychologist and psychoanalyst 1900–1980

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