
“Reprove your friend in secret and praise him openly.”
The Notebooks of Leonardo da Vinci (1883), XIX Philosophical Maxims. Morals. Polemics and Speculations.
The Dignity of Human Nature (1754)
“Reprove your friend in secret and praise him openly.”
The Notebooks of Leonardo da Vinci (1883), XIX Philosophical Maxims. Morals. Polemics and Speculations.
“If you want enemies, excel your friends; but if you want friends, let your friends excel you.”
How to Win Friends and Influence People
About Inanna, Lines 272-274.
A Hymn to Inana (23rd century BCE)
“To find out a girl's faults, praise her to her girl friends.”
This has been widely attributed to Franklin since the 1940s, but is not found in any of his works. The language is not Franklin's, nor that of his time. It does paraphrase a portion of something he wrote in 1732 under the name Alice Addertongue:
If I have never heard Ill of some Person, I always impute it to defective Intelligence; for there are none without their Faults, no, not one. If she be a Woman, I take the first Opportunity to let all her Acquaintance know I have heard that one of the handsomest or best Men in Town has said something in Praise either of her Beauty, her Wit, her Virtue, or her good Management. If you know any thing of Humane Nature, you perceive that this naturally introduces a Conversation turning upon all her Failings, past, present, and to come.
Misattributed
“Do not let your anger misguide you, my friend.”
When the Elephants Dance
“Your honor, your name, your praise will live forever.”
Semper honos nomenque tuum laudesque manebunt.
Source: Aeneid (29–19 BC), Book I, Line 609 (tr. Fagles); Aeneas to Dido.