“If you don't want to be in an argument with someone, it is probably best to try to solve the problem, rather than lying around hoping the other person will do it for you.”

—  E. Lockhart

Source: The Boy Book: A Study of Habits and Behaviors, Plus Techniques for Taming Them

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