“Facilitative attitudes (and skills) can help a therapist gain entry into the group”
Carl R. Rogers (1902–1987) American psychologist
Carl Rogers on Personal Power (1977)
“Facilitative attitudes (and skills) can help a therapist gain entry into the group”
Carl R. Rogers (1902–1987) American psychologist
Carl Rogers on Personal Power (1977)
Jonah Goldberg (1969) American political writer and pundit
2010s, 2018, When Evil Becomes Inconvenient (2018)
Theodore Roosevelt (1858–1919) American politician, 26th president of the United States
1910s, The Progressives, Past and Present (1910)
Robert Trivers (1943) American evolutionary biologist and sociobiologist
As quoted in Science at the Edge: Conversations with the Leading Scientific Thinkers of Today (2008), p. 170
Context: People are often unconscious of some of the mechanisms that naturally occur in them in a biased way. For example, if I do something that is beneficial to you or to others, I will use the active voice: I did this, I did that, then benefits rained down on you. But if I did something that harmed others, I unconsciously switch to a passive voice: this happened, then that happened, then unfortunately you suffered these costs. One example I always loved was a man in San Francisco who ran into a telephone pole with his car, and he described it to the police as, "the pole was approaching my car, I attempted to swerve out-of-the-way, when it struck me."
Let me give you another, the way in which group membership can entrain language-usages that are self-deceptive. You can divide people into in-groups or out-groups, or use naturally occurring in-groups and out-groups, and if someone's a member of your in-group and they do something nice, you give a general description of it – "he's a generous person". If they do something negative, you state a particular fact: "in this case he misled me", or something like that. But it's exactly the other way around for an out-group member. If an out-group member does something nice, you give a specific description of it: "she gave me directions to where I wanted to go". But if she does something negative, you say, "she's a selfish person". So these kinds of manipulations of reality are occurring largely unconsciously.
Nick Land (1962) British philosopher
"Kinds of Killing" https://web.archive.org/web/20121111032625/http://www.thatsmags.com/shanghai/article/1008/kinds-of-killing (2011) (original emphasis)
“You can't help what you feel, but you can help how you behave”
Margaret Atwood book The Handmaid's Tale
Source: The Handmaid's Tale
“How dreadful knowledge of the truth can be
When there's no help in truth!”
Sophocles (-496–-406 BC) ancient Greek tragedian
Variant: Wisdom is a curse when wisdom does nothing for the man who has it.
Source: Oedipus Rex, Line 316.
“How can you stay so calm?"
It helps if you're terrified.”
John Flanagan (1873–1938) Irish-American hammer thrower
Source: The Battle for Skandia