“But by far the worst thing we do to males—by making them feel they have to be hard—is that we leave them with very fragile egos. The harder a man feels compelled to be, the weaker his ego is.”

—  Chi­ma­man­da Ngo­zi Adi­chie, We Should All Be Feminists

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