“Marriage isn’t about the good days. Anyone can make a life with anyone else when you are having a good day. Marriage is about the bad days. When you have lost confidence. When you have been hurt. Or failed. Or gotten angry. Or made a terrible mistake. That is when the power of a marriage reveals itself.”

— Stephen Tobolowsky

Stephen Tobolowsky in a Facebook post on August 16, 2014 https://www.facebook.com/stephentobolowsky/photos/a.720745797941988.1073741825.113073725375868/922749314408301.

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