“When we speak of mom winning custody or of dad getting visitation time, we speak of someone winning, someone losing. When we speak of mom or dad spending “parent time” with a child, we speak of two parents, not a parent versus a visitor.”

—  Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 187.

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