“In my early professional years I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?”

“Religion asks questions about morals, whereas science just asks questions about the natural world. But when people try to use religion to address the natural world, science pushes back on it, and religion has to accommodate the results. Beliefs can be permanent, but beliefs can also be flexible. Personally, if I find out my belief is wrong, I change my mind. I think that's a good way to live.”

“I used to fear that taking medication would change my personality; now I fear that it won’t.”

“I know you're not a stupid person, so why would you ask such a stunningly stupid question?”

“The only question now is: How much can I hang on to?”

“I think of how the person who needs the other person the least in a relationship is the stronger member.”

“We can each sit and wait to die, from the very day of our births. Those of us who do not do so, choose to ask--and to answer--the two questions that define every conscious creature: What do I want? and What will I do to get it? Which are, finally, only one question: What is my will? Caine teaches us that the answer is always found within our own experience; our lives provide the structure of the question, and a properly phrased question contains its own answer.”

“I do not ask the wounded person how he feels, I myself become the wounded person.”

“The most important question a person can ask is, "Is the Universe a friendly place?”

“I'm not making a problem out of a personal question; I make of a personal question an absence of a problem.”