“The neurotic opts out of life because he is having trouble maintaining his illusions about it, which proves nothing less than, that life is possible only with illusions.”

—  Ernest Becker , book The Denial of Death

"The Present Outcome of Psychoanalysis", p. 189
The Denial of Death (1973)

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